Have you ever had a dream that died? Sure, we all have…a marriage that didn’t last, a business that failed, a precious child who died, mistakes we made that turned our life upside down, maybe parents who weren’t there when we needed them, an unexpected pregnancy that halted our career plans, the death of a spouse, or perhaps a failure to become the person we thought we would be, such as being signed by a major league team or becoming CEO of our company.
Every time a dream dies, a little piece of our heart dies also, and we enter a state of mourning for our loss. In the second Beatitude Jesus proclaimed God’s amazing compassion for all who mourn.*
God's Promise to All Who Mourn
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” (Matthew 5:4)
Your life probably hasn’t turned out exactly like you thought it would (whose has?), and you may be in a state of mourning whether you acknowledge it or not. The Bible says, The LORD is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed. (Psalm 34:18, NLT) The Father has promised not to leave you comfortless, He will come to you if you will continue to trust Him. (John 14:18) Jesus is the healer of the brokenhearted. (Luke 4:18)
The Dream That Came to Life Again
There is a wonderful illustration of a restored dream way back in the Old Testament. When the prophet Samuel crowned Saul king over Israel, Samuel dreamed a “kingdom dream” of a godly king ruling over a godly nation. He could envision the glory of God’s kingdom shining to the whole earth through a godly king and people.
But as King Saul aged, the kingdom dream became less and less a reality. Saul’s mental condition became darker and darker as he descended through disobedience into jealousy, fear, and self-centeredness.
Samuel had foreseen what the kingdom could look like, but he discerned plainly what Saul had become and mourned over Saul’s lost opportunity.
Mourning, grieving, and making adjustments is necessary for a season, but there comes a time to take off our black garments and move forward with life, even though we walk with “a limp.”
The Lord wants to turn our mourning into dancing, but that can only happen if we are willing to arise and move our feet. (Psalm 30:11)
Once the Lord got Samuel’s attention, He sent him to the house of Jesse the Bethlehemite to anoint Jesse’s youngest son David as the next king over Israel. (To “anoint” someone meant pouring olive oil on their head, as symbolic of the Spirit of God filling them with wisdom, courage, and leadership ability.)
While Samuel didn’t live to see the glory of David's kingdom, he was comforted in knowing that he had quit mourning over Saul and anointed David as king, a man after God’s own heart who would do His will.
You can be like Samuel in bringing your shattered dreams to the Lord, that He may comfort you and direct your life in a fresh direction.
Things in your past may have ended in disaster, yet one minute in the presence of the Holy Spirit will heal your heart from the wounds of the past and help you chart a new course that will be successful and fulfilling once again.
Don't Blame God for What People Do
People sometimes hold God responsible for the death of their dreams, but it’s important to forgive Him and learn to trust again. While God is all-powerful, He does not control the free will actions of men nor the evil done by the devil. Terrible things happen on earth that are not His will.
God, being good, does not do evil and “allows” evil only to the extent that Adam and his children (us) allow evil. Don’t step into the devil’s trap of blaming God for what happened. This cuts you off from the only One who can heal your broken heart, and you don't want to live in such a condition. Here is a prayer to help you forgive God.
- Father, I come before You not understanding everything that has happened in my life. I expected You to do _______________, but it didn’t happen. I confess I am confused, discouraged, and even angry. But I place on Your altar all my unfulfilled expectations and dreams. I determine to worship You from this day forward, without reservation or condition. You will be my God and I will be Your servant, in Jesus’ name. Amen.
When David was anointed the future king of Israel, King Saul was still on the throne and persecuted David, causing him to endure repeated hardships and discouraging circumstances, including the death of his parents.
But in the end God turned the bad around for good. In Psalm 30:11 King David declared the amazing things God had done for him, You have turned my mourning into joyful dancing. You have taken away my clothes of mourning and clothed me with joy. (Psalm 30:11, NLT)
I believe that will be your testimony, too, as God brings comfort into your life, and turns your mourning into blessing, so that you are “happy, to be envied, and spiritually prosperous—with life-joy and satisfaction in God’s favor and salvation, regardless of [one’s] outward conditions.” (The meaning of “blessed” from The Amplified Bible.)
Do you want to ascend? Let the Holy Spirit lead you out of the house of mourning to the place of a new beginning!
- "Blessed are those that mourn, for they shall be comforted."
*Common interpretations of this verse refer to the deep contrition the repentant sinner feels when the realization of the self-centeredness of sin floods his heart. This leads to the poverty of spirit mentioned in the first Beatitude. However, other painful incidents, often due to circumstances beyond our own control, produce a state of mourning that can hinder our relationship with God. Our compassionate Lord is willing to address our mourning with a promise of comfort, knowing the goodness of God leads us to repentance. (Romans 2:4) God's compassion is so amazing that I'm reminded of the sentiment in the Dottie Rambo Gospel song, "He Looked Beyond My Faults and Saw My Need."